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Quick Recap Of What Roles Are

The essence of every romantic relationship can be broken into these four roles; Lover, Friend, Consultant, and Supporter. How often and how well you play each role will define the balance, health, and experience of your relationship dynamic. Too much of one and not enough of another may be the reason you and your partner feel "off". The way you play your roles may even be contributing to your relationship conflict.

What Is the Function Of The Supporter's Role In A Relationship?

The Supporter is in the zone of work. This role comes in when a couple begins to share the workload for life together either by sharing space like moving in together or sharing responsibilities of life in areas with high tasks like homesteading, vacation planning, and child-rearing. The role of the Consultant is where all the planning begins, while the role of the Supporter is where the plans are finalized, agreed upon, and then broken into tasks. The role of the Supporter is also where all the tasks get completed. This is in the zone of work because it IS THE WORK. This is where the dishes get done, the laundry is sorted, the bills get paid, the travel plans are made, the kids get picked up from school, the pets get fed, the groceries are bought, and the meals are made. This is the action of the relationship, and the balance of this role will vary greatly from couple to couple, depending on how interdependent their lives are. The main characteristics of the role of the Supporter are planning, task management, and delegating/asking for help. The sub-roles for knocking out tasks together are homesteading (called domestic partners), parenting, and adventuring. Not all sub-roles will apply to you, and that is okay. Some relationships are very limited in the energy they share in this role, and that is okay. Some relationships are very heavy in the energy they share in this role, and that is okay, too.

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