Q: How Do I Find Out My Role Balance?
Role balance in relationships is about effectively managing and harmonizing the four key roles of Supporter, Lover, Friend, and Consultant. Each role plays a crucial part in fostering a healthy, fulfilling relationship. The Supporter role involves providing practical and emotional backing, handling everyday tasks and challenges together. The Lover role focuses on maintaining physical and emotional intimacy, ensuring the relationship retains its passion and depth. The Friend role emphasizes companionship and shared interests, strengthening the bond through mutual enjoyment and leisure activities. Lastly, the Consultant role is about offering guidance and support in decision-making, helping each other grow and navigate life’s complexities. Achieving role balance ensures that no single aspect dominates, promoting a dynamic and nurturing relationship where both partners feel equally valued and connected.
Achieving Role Balance is about making sure you nurture and embody each all four roles in a balance that feels right for you and your relationship. The balance between roles can be different for different couples. It is up to you to decide what makes the most sense for your needs in this moment.
Discovering your Role Balance is a personal and intuitive process that only you can do. It is simple, yet highly specific and accurate. All you need to do to discover the current Role Balance in your relationship is to assess how much time, energy, and effort you feel like you spend in these four categories. Think of it like a pie chart with four slices, then assign a fraction to each of the four roles: Supporter, Lover, Friend, and Consultant. What percent of time do you spend in the Supporter? How about the Lover? And what about the Friend? Lastly, how much time do you spend in the Consultant? All four percentages should add up to 100.
To decide where you WANT your Role Balance to be, simply follow that same exercise for where you WANT to be instead of where you currently are. The differences between where you are and where you want to be will give you plenty of insight to work with on next steps to balance your roles.
Understanding your Role Proficiency is about assessing your comfort, capacity, and competency in each of the 4 roles of secure relating; Lover, Friend, Consultant, and Supporter. Understanding and working with your Role proficiency offers an expert level of direction to your journey from embodying your archetype to health and security in your relationship. This highly personalized approach can be done as a single or as a couple.
Once you know your archetype, it is time to find out how active your Archetype is.
Your archetype will be less active the more proficient at the roles you are. It will also be less active when you use that proficiency to maintain a balance in your relationship between the roles that feels good for you and your partner.
Your Archetype will be more active and will cause more conflict the lower your role proficiency is and the further alway from balance you get.
Uncover your Role Proficiency by taking the Role Proficiency Assessment. The results of this assessment are much more personalized and nuanced than the Relationship Archetype Quiz and includes deeper insights into what is causing conflict in your relating style.
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Balancing Relational Roles For Healthy Secure Relationships
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